"I just found out I'm adopted."
Welcome to Expressive Roots for Late-Discovery Adoptees!
Chances are, if you've found your way here you are an adoptee, a late-discovery adoptee, or someone whose life has been affected by adoption. Here, you will find adoption information and resources primarily intended for Late-Discovery Adoptees or LDA's.
What does LDA mean?
LDA stand for Late-discovery Adoptee. LDA's share a few commonalities with adoptees in that they are both: adopted, experience similar processes of grief and loss, and face issues related to search and reunion. The key difference: is that LDA's learn of their adoption later in life. Most have been deceived or lied to for large portions of their life. This deception and delayed processing adds layers of trauma, loss, betrayal, identity confusion, and disorganization upon learning the truth.
Every story is different and unique. Some LDA's were raised by one birth parent, some were adopted by members of their extended birth family, and some were adopted by both parents in a traditional "stranger adoption." What binds LDA's together is the deception regarding their origins, and the consequences of that. Some have asked me what one age would one need to be at time of "discovery" for them to be considered an LDA. I don't believe there is a specific age, and probably every LDA would answer differently. Rather than getting hung up on that, I will say this, if you feel like you belong here, you probably do, so welcome!
Who am I?
I am a Late-Discovery Adoptee. A survivor of trauma and abuse. A wife and mother. For many years, I worked as a birth doula, and later as a shantala baby massage instructor. Our family has fostered teens, and been a perspective adoptive family at one time. In recent years, I have become a counsellor who uses art as a primary means of emotional processing and healing in my work with youths.
The work I do is healing, intuitive, rewarding, and creative. Expressive arts are a powerful and dynamic way to move forward in our journey. It is a privilege to witness clients process and find their inner voice, courage, and strength. In my local practice, I work primarily with youths and their families, supporting them in learning new skills such as: communication, emotional regulation, increased self awareness, managing anxiety, boundaries, and how to deepen family connections. Clients learn how to tune into their bodies and their emotions. One of the fundamental skills they learn is how to practice self-care when they recognize they are experiencing troubling emotions; they learn that the emotions are a signal to them that something needs their attention. Together we learn how to pay attention, how to process, how to hear the message and transform, moving forward.